$r=q("SELECT COUNT(*) AS `total` FROM `contact` WHERE `uid` = %d AND `self` = 0 AND `blocked` = 0 and `pending` = 0 AND `hidden` = 0 AND `archive` = 0",
$r=q("SELECT * FROM `contact` WHERE `uid` = %d AND `self` = 0 AND `blocked` = 0 and `pending` = 0 AND `hidden` = 0 AND `archive` = 0 ORDER BY RAND() LIMIT %d",