diff --git a/src/Model/Contact.php b/src/Model/Contact.php
index 0f953a0b33..cfd25a1333 100644
--- a/src/Model/Contact.php
+++ b/src/Model/Contact.php
@@ -3291,7 +3291,7 @@ class Contact
 		if ($contact['rel'] == self::SHARING || in_array($contact['network'], [Protocol::FEED, Protocol::MAIL])) {
 			self::remove($contact['id']);
 		} else {
-			self::update(['rel' => self::FOLLOWER], ['id' => $contact['id']]);
+			self::update(['rel' => self::FOLLOWER, 'pending' => false], ['id' => $contact['id']]);
 		}
 
 		Worker::add(Worker::PRIORITY_LOW, 'ContactDiscoveryForUser', $contact['uid']);